Officiants and the Wedding Weekend

While many couples have a single wedding ceremony followed by a reception, this isn’t working for everyone.

A trend in weddings is the extended celebration over multiple days. With guests coming in from all over, making the wedding itself a destination provides opportunities for family and friends to celebrate together in multiple ways. Or maybe you have friends & family with varying schedules & you’re making sure they can be included.

You may be having…

  • a welcome party on Friday;
  • a beach get-away, wedding 5k run, a volunteer project, a museum visit or theme park visit on Saturday morning;
  • a private early-afternoon Saturday luncheon for the wedding party
  • a rehearsal dinner on Saturday evening;
  • a brunch on Sunday morning.
  • And then…. (drumroll….) the wedding on Sunday afternoon followed by the wedding reception.

The Celebrant is your ceremony composer & choreographer.

They help you craft the perfect ceremony, guiding you through stylistic choices and options that will make your wedding unforgettable. This may include weaving rituals into the ceremony and/or each event that are meaningful to you and creating ways that your friends and family (yes, even the dogs), can be integrated into the script.

For the multi-faceted wedding weekend, you might consider having your celebrant:

  • Help you think about rituals and wedding elements that can be used to connect all of the wedding weekend activities
  • Give a welcome speech or inclusive invocation at the welcome party
  • Provide a Humanist toast or ivocation at a gathering or meal.
  • Lead a Humanist values discussion as a stand-alone event or perhaps after a meal. The family is almost certainly comprises diverse religious, secular and spiritual identities. A Humanist values discussion can bring everyone together on common ground, bridging differences and allaying apprehension. Some may invite clergy from multiple denominations to come together with them and their parents, or other family members, for a similar guided discussion.
  • Make a difference together! Nothing brings people together like time invested making the world a better place. A unique service of Humanist Celebrant Orlando – we can organize and lead a volunteer project either at the wedding or as part of a wedding weekend.

A wedding is a mix & match, created-just-for-you situation.

From minimalist to lavish, how you decide to honor and celebrate the beginning of your journey as a married couple is a personal – and important – decision.

Everyone’s wedding is unique because every couple’s family and journey together is unique. Whether the couple & Celebrant meet at Starbucks to sign the marriage license or we craft a week-long integrated series of unforgettable wedding events for hundreds of guests, it should be exactly as you imagined.

Consult with your Celebrant for ideas and inspiration; we’ll provide the building blocks, experience, and ideas. Together, we’ll construct an amazing, perfect celebration just for YOU.

Contact Humanist Celebrant Orlando for your consultation today.

Question: We want to get married without having a wedding. Is that a thing?

Life doesn’t always follow a traditional path, does it? Your journey as an individual and as a couple is unique. Someone recently reached out with their personal story and wondered if an officiant could marry them without having to do the “whole ceremony thing”.

Here are the options that a celebrant/officiant can help you with.

Ceremony with Legal Marriage

This is the traditional version – at the wedding ceremony the legal declaration is part of the ceremony and the marriage license is signed by the officiant then filed with the county.

It doesn’t have to have a large ceremony – sometimes called a micro wedding or minimony, a small gathering of even a few family and friends is sometimes the intimate setting that is perfect for that couple.

Ceremony, No Legal Marriage

Some couples choose not to have a legal marriage; just a personal one. It may be that they cannot legally marry where they are, or perhaps they choose not to be legally married. Or perhaps they want to wait to be legally married later, but want to have their commitment ceremony now.

A commitment ceremony is exactly the same as any other wedding ceremony. The ceremony can contain any of the traditional elements and rituals including vows and exchange of rings – the only parts not included are the legal declaration & signing of the marriage certificate.

Legal Marriage, No Ceremony

Some couples choose to be legally married without the ceremony. Whether they are just with a couple of witnesses to sign paperwork or even a small gathering of a few family members & friends, this option is the most minimal, economical, intimate, and practical. Sometimes it is called the “sign & go” or “marry now” option.

Some go to a courthouse and have it done there, but i’ve been told that can be too impersonal – and that sometimes they “force” a “ceremony” or religious language that isn’t wanted. Others choose to have a notary or celebrant come to them. I’ve sat with a couple at their kitchen table and completed their paperwork, met them in a park, or at a coffee shop.

Two separate events; two separate purposes

Some couples choose to separate the two. They might get the legal aspect “out of the way” before heading to a destination wedding. They may want to have the legal paperwork in place to purchase a house together or some other practical reason, but want to wait for the “big ceremony” until a later date. During Covid, some couples chose to marry legally then plan a ceremony with family and friends later when they could safely bring people together again.