This is about self empowerment.

We don’t expect everything that happens on the journey of life, and sometimes our paths take us somewhere we had never hoped to go.

The end of a meaningful relationship is a deep loss of something that was valued in your life and was an integral part of your identity, no matter the circumstance. Grief is natural after such a loss but is often unrecognized and not honored.

It is also a stressful, uncertain time for children and others who are close to you and love you. They may wonder what this means for their connection to you and they may be seeking ways to support you in your transition.

A divorce or break-up ceremony can be a meaningful, positive way to bring closure to the relationship and commemorate the start of a new journey. It’s a therapeutic action where you pause to reflect on what this transition means in your life and commit to moving on. It can help your loved ones understand what this means in your life and give them the opportunity to be there for you. It can assure them that they remain connected to you and that your love for them is unchanged.

Gift idea: You got your best friend a wedding gift. Why not a divorce gift – the gift of an empowering ceremony?

Wedding Reversal (Couple Ceremony)

Some may want a reverse vow ceremony where the couple pledges continued support and respect for each other’s independence and individual journey as they part ways and affirm their continued friendship. We will talk through options that can include elements such as vows of commitment to children, family, friends, and even one another and “disunity” rituals that can be serious/solemn (reverse handfasting or reverse unity candle, for example, where the center candle remains lit as each takes their own flame back…) or fun and with good humor (like a symbolic wedding certificate tearing or burning).

Affirmation Ceremony (One Spouse Only Ceremony)

For some who are not parting as friends with their spouse, it may be meaningful to welcome a new chapter of life. We can honor the loss of identity as a partner (which deserves recognition and understanding that there will be a process of grief for this loss) and also affirm the new chapter of life that is starting with the support and love of those present in your life.

Celebrant role: write and officiate a ceremony personalized to your situation